Why Putting Yourself First Is A Boss Move!

What is your favorite part of owning and running your own business? Can you make an actual list? Most days I can. However there are days where that list is blank. Life and all this business shit is hard. It’s easy to get sucked down a hole of self doubt and fear. Putting yourself first is the key to being a badass boss! 

What is your favorite part of owning and running your own business? Can you make an actual list? Most days I can. However there are days where that list is blank. Life and all this business shit is hard. It’s easy to get sucked down a hole of self doubt and fear.

I recently told a group of ladies that my biggest fear was to someday in the future, be looking at job listings on Craigslist. The problem is that I am a nonconformist and am consistently seeking freedom. Or in other words, most bosses think I’m a total bitch.

So, I’m basically stuck here trying to spin my wheels. I’m constantly networking and pitching myself. It’s just what you do. But sometimes it becomes all you do. I am sure I can at least get a few head nods or I’ll even take eye rolls from this!

You become stuck only knowing others and you forget to know yourself. When I started my social media business, I was so excited that I was finally going to be meeting tons of other business owners and I have. I’m talking books full of business cards! I love networking and I love meeting new people. It’s just the way I am.

So here I sit. Full of gratitude for all I have and all the places I’m going to go, but something really is missing. Oh, yeah...it’s me.

I hit a place where I no longer know myself. I put off taking care of myself from day one. I instantly cut out the gym. Who the fuck has time for that? I stopped eating or cooking any meals. One day I realized that I ate a whole bag of chips with salsa for all three meals. And now I have the nerve to be shocked at where these 40 pounds on my ass came from….

Next thing I did was decide to work basically as much as possible. I would literally rationalize getting up at 5 am and going to bed at midnight. If I do this, then I will be successful. Here’s the deal. Yes, when you start a business you have to bust your ass. Here’s the REAL deal. You will do better work and be more productive when you are in a healthy state. Not a wine fueled midnight run. Trust me. There is no true balance between booze and caffeine. I tried to find it...It’s a fucking unicorn.

I tried to take everything very serious and I bought a ton of courses! If you want to see what courses really worked for me, I will be blogging about this soon! You’d think between the wine and coffee I would have been a bit more relaxed, but obviously still a unicorn dream. If someone said you have to do xyz. I would suddenly make that my entire focus. If someone said the only way to grow your blog is to….Damn straight I did it.

{Truth nugget here, not everything is going to work for you. Just because someone had success with a strategy doesn’t make you a failure. It makes your business unique. You just have to take some of that and use it in your business. Use what works and kick what doesn’t. When I teach people social media strategies, they have to tailor it to their own business. I guide them through that process. What I am saying is that what worked for a doctor will not work for an artist. There is no magic pill. Unless it comes from a unicorn, but like I said it’s still a unicorn.}

So here I sit. Sounding like a pissed off lady. But really, it’s quite the opposite. I quit putting myself first and that was a dumbass move. I decided to switch things up, after replacing the battery in my scale, then buying a new one, because it had to be broke. It wasn’t broke.

I got that gym membership back! I gave myself permission to go. I started eating a real lunch and meal planning. It’s funny how focused you can be when your body had the nutrients it needs. I stopped trying to do everything!

I stopped getting up at 5 am. 6 am is early enough. I go to bed around 10 and I even do it without my laptop. I still hustle and bust my ass, but now I am doing it with more clarity and intention. Yes, I still drink a cup of coffee. And yes I still drink wine, just more socially instead of trying to calm my anxiety.

I started realizing that my goals were important to me. Those goals also included me. I am my business and I am the one doing this. Shouldn’t it only make sense to put yourself first.

I stopped hiding behind the computer screen. I let myself out! If I have free time it’s ok to not instantly fill it with work on the computer. Just stay focused. If you are feeling or sounding anything like me. It’s time to take a step back and put yourself back in your to-do list. Make that walk or gym time a priority. Make time for friends. Oh get this, I literally stopped answering any type of social calls. Literally. Not a boss move!

So I am here to tell you putting yourself first is truly a boss move! Your business, your energy and your life will thank you for it. I promise.

There’s no freebie or special opt in attached to this blog. Just some real raw truth. All I want from you is a simple reply. Let me know what areas of your business you are struggling with. Is it a lack of you? Is it simply the fact that you forgot to put yourself first? Let’s see if we can build a community around our true self.

If it was easy everyone would do it. You are in control of your destiny. You can come back.

Samantha Parker

Hype Social Strategies, St. George, Utah